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Name: Chuckie
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Interests: Touch rugby, outdoors, sitting outside in a carpark yakkin with my buddies. if u want to see recent pictures that i have taken with ricoh, please click on "my website" below.
Expertise: dun really like to specialise. LAMe jokes?
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MSN: adique23@hotmail.com
Member Since:
2/12/2004
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| I've now learnt that;
We are all merely passing ships
docking for a moment in each other's lives
happiness only momentarily
and each moment turns to memories
and reasons are what makes each memory count
and we know deep in our hearts that the ship has to leave,
and we know sadness will set in,
and we know that desperately clinging on is delusional
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just remember that;
sadness is also momentarily
but happiness is eternal memories
and we should remember that each ship,
touches us deeply in one way or another
and we know deep in our hearts
even if they are not physically around,
they have made a difference in our lives
and that we will never ever be the same again.
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| This is my theory about happiness. We all have our own ways to happiness but we usually constrain it to certain areas of life.. ie love or career
I have categorized life into 6 areas.
Relationship
Career
Family
Passion/Hobbies
Friends
Religion
Normally people misconstrued no.1 as the main priority in life. And in all the search for No.1 (an in view of no.1 as the biggest uncontrollable) we kinda lose ourselves and waste our time and emotions on it. Yes it is important to have no.1 but it is not the REASON why we are who we are. It is part of who we are.
Then usually when people don't get no.1 they priotise no.2. Also a huge no no. another uncontrollable. Of course its more controllable than number one but one can't be a workholic. It paralyzed your other cognitive functions (ie social skills, fun skills, etc) and it's sad cos when you die you can't bring the fruits of your labour to your grave. Therefore for me finding happiness in number 2 is my main priority
No.3 most of us have it. but some of us take it for granted. which is a huge nono. cos like it or not, they are a huge part of our lives
no 4 i would say equips the individual with personality. without it, we would be a photostat copy of each other. for example no two accountants are the same. one might be a closet punk rocker the other might be i don't know a closet gay. Therefore they wouldn't have had any of that energetic creativity with their lives without no.4. So my take is no.4 IS important.
no.5 is what some of us think of the 'most essential' component in our lives. I would think so too cos I myself and pro friendship:) and they are one of the only controllables in your lives (if you have no control maybe its time to let go of those friends heh) They love you unconditionally and they have no expectations. And they play A HUGE part in building your personality. Therefore always choose your friends wisely. treat it like an investment
last but not least, religion. The only thing that keeps me grounded. especially when I am lost. Its not tangible. I cannot hold conversations or hug it but in a weird way, when I am in trouble, its the only thing i can confide in. and it gives me guidelines for me to sort out what is the next step i should take. AND FOR that reason i am always grateful
all it takes now with this knowledge is balance and love. encapsulate all these points with love and try your best to balance it out. Don't invest too much time in one as the others need the same amount of investment too. Like they say, don't put all your eggs in one basket. it acts as a safety net too cos if number 1 or number 4 (who almost usually gives u the most heartache) does not work out, you still have the other numbers to fall back on whilst you rebuild the shattered walls caused by no 1 and 4.
Last but not least don't be with a no1 who restricts you from having either one of your numbers. Cos all these numbers makes up who you are as a person and if any of that is taken away it just as good as taking your personality away. And that my friends shows that that is NOT the kinda person you want to be with. The person you want to be with loves you and accept you for who you are and not implicate you with his/her expectations.
Thank you for reading. I hope you have a good life..:) | | |
| Indepth discussions with a good friend gets me thinking what do I look for in a partner.
I’ve come to realize that I am now certain than ever before what I look for in a partner.
Connection. Mentally and emotionally. They don’t have to be like me. As long as I feel the connection. I reckon that’s the bottom line. I want someone I can talk to abt everything. I live on discussions. I want to know that you have a capacity to be yourself and not be only your strengths. I want to know your weakness. So that I can embrace that weakness too. I would prefer if the person are aware of their weakness and admits to it. I want real. Don’t come and impress me cos i am more turned off by impressions. So don’t have to brag cos it’s a turn off.
Bottom line is be real, be yourself. then we won’t have to waste our time creating positive images to each other cos that will definitely not last us for a year :\
and the other thing is that if i am able to be myself around that person and do anything dress anything say anything without feeling stupid or conscious of myself. Then I reckon you’re the one for me. Cos I definitely appreciate someone who does the same thing to me too. | | |
| Our parents breathe life into us.. And what is life? Living an breathin, gg through the stages of growing up.
and at every stage we live to fulfil the requirements at that age.. When we were young we had to learn.. N tts the easy stage where there were constantly guided to a direction.. N now that we r old we feel lost cos tt leash is being pulled away and we r left without any direction.. that's when the shit happens and that's where we ask ourselves what am I supposed to do now?
Some chooses life, some love, some family,some friendship, etc .. Some marriage. When we tot we made the right choice and invest our lives in that chosen path, we throw ourselves in it hopin tt we made the right choice …
Some lucky ones do .. Some dun and some of us make the right choice but keeps us happy for a period of time cos shit happens.. That's when we get insecure and question ourselves and our worth and blame ourselves for being so stupid and for being naive ..
But..
as Cliche as it sounds ..
Tts life ;/
so live ur life.. Take the good with the bad cos without the bad .. We d not live a life we d live a robotic life.. We grow from pain and happiness n we never stop finding directions.. cos Everything is not constant
But u Noe what’s constant? U … U r constant n u will never let urself down n u are responsible fer making urself happy .. So live it live ur life the best tt u can .. N when u die u die with a smile cos u know deep in ur heart .. U did ur best to make urself happy n proud
On the other side of that thought though;
Making urself happy shd be our main priority in life.. However, makin ourselves happy at the expense of hurting the ppl ard u .. U cross over from happiness to being selfish. Everybody makes tt mistake cos we tot "so what?" as long as it makes us happy.. We can’t pls everyone, correct.. But doesn’t mean we haf the rite to hurt others ..
But as I always say.. Try ur best to do things the right way.. As long as there’s no regrets n u can live with ur decisions.. I think tts good enough.. Life is not a textbook.. It is a creative spontaneous process tt no definition can give it any sense
So, in conclusion .. Make urself happy.. Learn to Live with ur decisions . Happiness I now define it as finding reasons . Family, friends, career, religion, passion, hobbies and love are the main elements tt makes one happy and its not one..Everyone has the habit of banking their element on Love only and that's where the problem starts. Its like investments. U don't put all your money into one you put your money everywhere that's important. So, Spread urself out der.. To every element in ur life.. Not love only.. e.g He could be married to u make u happy but he’ll die one day u know what I mean? Are u going to break .. Are u goin to stop life? No u still haf to move on .. U still haf to live. Life moves on without you.
Just remind yourself that the person is one of the many reasons that makes you happy that makes you feel alive. But they shouldn't be THE only reason why you are happy. this applies to friendship, love, hobbies, etc
Are we strong enough..? Tt simply depends on the belief n faith u haf in urself tt u are strong enough to live ur life no matter what and that you are worth it. And that you have control of.
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| I will no longer be posting up any blogs for now.. Thanks for consistently visiting my site... and check how I am.
I am fine
Just need a break.
Till we meet again..
Take care | | |
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